When you have sometime alone to yourself, you sometimes travel back to the past and unearth memories of life events. Thinking about people (and pets) who have died and all the moments you enjoyed together is one of the most common memories we have.
I’ve heard from people who express distress and upset over the fact that they are having fading memories of faces or voices of loved ones; or the memories of some of the thing they did together are gone. This has happened to me many times. There are friends, family and pets who have died many years ago. I can’t remember some of the things they used to say, how their voice sounded or certain family gatherings and special events. Some things have faded completely from my memory.
But – I remember their ESSENCE! Their essence; what made them WHO they are to me; HOW I felt when I was around them, and the hole they left in my life when they died.
So to those people out there who are grieving from a recent passing or those of you who lost someone decades ago – don’t worry about losing memories of events, or voices, or little things you did together. Relax, look at a photo or an object that was a part of them and remember HOW they made you FEEL. That is their essence; their connective energy to you.
No one is ever truly gone from your life, spiritually.
I went to a talk on Co-Victims of Homicide a about a month ago. I learned a lot listening to parents of homicide victims. They talked about some of what they had gone through; what they actually need from people, and what they DON’T want to hear people say.
One of the speakers was the father of a young man who was tragically killed on his second day of work on a job at a restaurant in the U.S. At the start of Mr. “J”s talk while he was describing his son and the awful crime that happened, I could see a huge aura around him. That showed he believed in what he was saying and had positive energy generating out in doing so. It was cathartic and beneficial to talk to people about homicide victims and the grief process,
Then a shape of a young male, who was standing on his right side appeared. I was told by my spirit guide that this was his son. The spirit of the son was very proud of his father and enjoyed listening to the beginning of his fathers talk because it was about him.
When his father got into talking about other aspects of the grief process, the son disappeared because he was no longer the direct focus and it was not as interesting for him to hang around anymore. Just seeing how much the son loved his father and how much his father still and always will grieve for him, was very emotional. I tell people when you are thinking about a loved one, talking about them, mentioning their name, immediately they will show up beside you – if only for a few seconds or a few minutes. That is how strong and powerful our love is and how it extends into the spirit world.